Imagine for a moment that you raise your children in a pretty good home. However, the two oldest stray and start following the wrong crowd. Then imagine seeing the third child begin to make associations that are just as unsavory. Would you realize that something needs to be changed? We did – with amazing results.
Are you interested in raising faith-filled children? Children who have a heart for God, with little regard to the circumstances that have already shaped their lives? Then you’ve come to the right place!
I raised my three oldest children, Christopher, Melissa and Jared, pretty much the same way. We had deep talks about life, choices and consequences, human behavior, emotions, self-esteem, etc. I read scriptures and discussed them with the kids on a continual basis. We attended church every Sunday. We enjoyed family activities together. We played, laughed, cried, and talked. We had fun. And the kids knew that they were loved…
However, despite all of this, my two eldest children, Christopher and Melissa, decided to take the wrong road (go to the article When They Stray for a view of what happened). Both of them ended up doing drugs, selling drugs, spending time in jail, losing jobs, friends, school, etc. Their lives were a mess!
When I saw my third child, Jared, starting on the same exact path when he was in 8th grade, I got angry and said, “Enough!” I pulled him out of public school, I got rid of the worldly influences in our home, I gave him a Leadership Education which included the classics – a lot of classics starting with the Bible. We discussed character, integrity, honesty, and making a difference. A personal relationship with Jesus was established and maintained. We invite you to our Parenting Section to read articles on this type of parenting.
The results? Despite experiencing his parents going through multiple divorces, watching his father on drugs and alcohol put a gun to his head, having a mother who all of sudden was homeless, jobless and car-less living with friends for 8 months, he flourished! At twenty, he has a heart for God and is doing the Lord’s work. He puts in 8-12 hours of study a day; not because he has to but because he *loves* it! He has a younger sister and brother, Erin and Preston, who adore him and walk in his footsteps.
My Melissa, who had taken the wrong path, told me afterwards that had I raised her the way that I raised Jared, her life would be totally different and she would not have made the poor choices that she had made. That’s a great testimony to radical parenting! She was able to share a little bit of her story during the Anti Drug and Alcohol Rally on September 5th, 2009 at the Layton Amphitheater. She, too, has a great heart for God and lives her life very closely entwined with Her Lord. She is consistently taking her old friends (the ones who still walk the rocky road) to church, and they are receiving the Word into their hearts and becoming fellow believers.
My other prodigal child Christopher, married to Heidi and proud father of Oliver, now manages a camera shop. He is free from all addictions and also walks with God. He is free to share the Gospel because he has seen the power of God in his life. He speaks at High Schools and shares his experience with drugs and how it ruins lives. He, too, walks with God and is involved in His work!
Go to the article It’s Not the End for a more detailed description of how this was accomplished.
We’ve developed this site to teach a radical way of parenting for our children today. Our society seems to be getting progressively worse and people are accepting it more and more. It just reminds me of the frog that gets into hot water and is slowly boiled because he adjusts his body to the temperature. Unfortunately, this leads to his death! In our opinion, our families are struggling with morality issues due to the worldly influences that have invaded our homes. Morals are now a self-determined boundary based on what a person feels is right!
There has got to be a pattern to follow and a measuring stick to test the behaviors. The Bible is that Pattern and Measuring Stick. God has warned us to guard our hearts and our minds, to not let any detestable thing into our house, to be responsible for the upbringing of our children. We are serious about His business that He has entrusted us with. We are responsible for our children – not the schools, not the church, not their friends. We, the parents, are to teach them God-Given Values and Principles, and show by example how to live a life pleasing unto Him, while enjoying a great relationship with our Lord Jesus Christ, our Savior.
We pray that your families will benefit from our experiences. I’m not going to lie and tell you that this is the easy road, because it’s not. It requires commitment and effort to bring up children unto the Lord.